This presentation revolves around the role of love in psychoanalysis and how our love is conveyed in the analytic setting. This has been an erasure in our understanding of the way we work and is certainly reflected in the scant literature on the subject. Contemporary psychoanalysis is immersed, involved, yet asymmetric. The role our love plays is not sentimental or oversimplified, as in a corrective emotional experience, but in the way Loewald meant – to paraphrase a famous passage: It is through our sustained attention and moments of deep analyzing that we experience and reflect our love for our patients. I add another dimension to this - our willingness to take in, to receive the unconscious projections and emanations of our patients, our willingness to suffer these, reflect our deep commitment and love for our patients. The parallels to maternal eroticism are obvious as well.